It wasn’t till somebody requested me, “What are the methods somebody can present you that they love you?” that I ended to consider how we love each other. And till then, I had no concept that you might present like to somebody within the fallacious manner. After which I spotted that whereas I believed that I used to be doing all the pieces I may to indicate like to my family members, I spotted, perhaps they want a distinct form of love. A love that I’m not used to giving or receiving. And if I really wish to present them love that they really feel, then I must cease specializing in what I believe love means or seems to be like, and begin exploring what it seems to be like for them. And perhaps much more importantly, perhaps I must cease getting upset once they don’t acknowledge my acts of affection as love.
Possibly this particular person doesn’t know the best way to settle for the kind of love that I give.
I’m sorry for providing you with area while you actually wanted to simply share within the silence collectively.
I’m sorry for making an attempt to unravel the issue, while you actually simply wished somebody to pay attention.
I’m sorry for not recognizing the small acts that meant a lot to you and went unnoticed by me.
I’m sorry for not reciprocating these acts for you.
I’m sorry I didn’t discover the time and effort you took to indicate me your love, even when I didn’t perceive it.
I’m sorry for forcing you to speak about it while you wanted to course of all the pieces first.
I’m sorry for stifling your development, even when I didn’t imply to.
I’m sorry that my try to indicate empathy and be relatable got here off as self-centered.
I’m sorry for providing you with a hug while you wished area.
I’m sorry that you just didn’t really feel understood as a result of my response was not what you wanted.
I’m sorry for not saying the proper issues, or not saying something in any respect.
I’m sorry for not providing you with my undivided consideration.
I’m sorry for not being your rock while you wished to crumble.
I’m sorry for asking you to be my rock while you had been unable to reside as much as that accountability.
I’m sorry for making an attempt to push you to develop while you simply wished to be nonetheless for a second.
I’m sorry that the timing isn’t proper for us to be susceptible with each other.
I’m sorry that you just didn’t really feel appreciated.
I’m sorry for not serving to you. I didn’t perceive how exhausting it’s so that you can ask for assist and never recognizing simply how a lot you do.
I’m sorry for turning to another person as an alternative of providing you with an opportunity to like me in a different way.
I’m sorry we didn’t work out just because our kinds of affection had been imbalanced. When issues, regardless of how small, go unnoticed, and phrases go unsaid, resentment, confusion, anger and unhappiness begin to develop. We flip inwards and we inform ourselves to let go. We may have held on. We may have tried once more and realized to like, to grasp on a deeper stage, and to achieve out of our consolation zone and acknowledge the love we’re receiving and adapt the love that we’re giving.
I’m sorry I left the small issues go unnoticed, and phrases go unsaid. I’m sorry I let the anger and the unhappiness develop. I’m sorry that I let go earlier than providing you with one other likelihood. I’m sorry I couldn’t maintain on any longer.
And I’m sorry that we didn’t love one another the way in which we wanted to be beloved.